There’s a version of you still sitting in that memory…
Maybe scared.
Maybe waiting.
Maybe wondering, “Why didn’t they come back for me?”
That part of you isn’t gone.
It’s just buried under responsibility, adulthood, and emotional survival.
And it’s called: Your Inner Child.
Today, let’s gently go to them — not to fix them, but to finally see them.
👶🏽 What Is the Inner Child?
The inner child is the part of your psyche that holds on to:
- unmet needs
- old wounds
- core memories (both joyful and painful)
- your original purity and sensitivity
This isn’t woo-woo psychology.
It’s trauma-informed healing.
Psychologist Carl Jung called this the “divine child” — the vulnerable, creative, feeling part of you that gets exiled when we’re forced to “grow up.”
But the child stays.
And they often run your emotional reactions, your self-worth, even your adult relationships.
🧠What Science Says
When emotional needs are unmet in childhood, your brain adapts.
It says:
“Love has to be earned.”
“If I express my feelings, I’ll be abandoned.”
“I have to be perfect to be safe.”
These beliefs live in the subconscious.
And they shape everything — unless we bring them into the light.
Research shows:
đź’ˇ Inner child healing reduces anxiety, improves emotional regulation, and builds self-compassion.
đź“ż What Islam Reflects
Islam is a rahma-centered path.
The Prophet Muhammad ď·ş kissed children, carried them on his back, cried with the grieving.
In one hadith, when a Bedouin man saw the Prophet kissing a child, he was shocked and said:
“I have ten children, and I’ve never kissed one!”
The Prophet ď·ş replied:
“What can I do if Allah has removed mercy from your heart?”
(Bukhari)
He honored the child’s emotional world.
So should we.
✨ 5 Signs Your Inner Child Is Still Hurting
- You feel “too much” when someone ignores you
- You panic when people are disappointed in you
- You over-give to be liked
- You replay past rejections constantly
- You hate asking for help
These aren’t flaws.
They’re coping mechanisms — from a time when you didn’t get what you needed.
🌿 5 Gentle Ways to Reconnect with Your Inner Child
1. ✍🏽 Write to Them
Try this:
“Dear little me, I see you.
I’m sorry no one protected you.
But I’m here now.
And I will never abandon you again.”
Let them write back, too. Let it be messy. Let it be real.
2. 🖼️ Place a Childhood Photo Somewhere Visible
Not to be cute — but as a reminder:
That child still lives in you.
Speak to them with softness.
3. 🤲🏽 Include Them in Du’a
Say:
“Ya Allah, please heal the parts of me that never felt seen.
Please give rest to the child in me who carried too much, too early.”
Healing becomes sacred when it’s surrendered to Divine love.
4. 🧸 Reclaim Joy
- Color with crayons
- Rewatch a childhood show
- Dance like no one’s watching
Joy is medicine.
You’re not being silly.
You’re being alive.
5. 🛑 Set Boundaries They Never Had
Each “no” you say now is a “yes” to the child who wasn’t protected.
That is powerful healing.
🧕🏽 A Spiritual Reframe
Instead of saying:
“I’m so broken. I can’t believe I still cry over this.”
Say:
“This is the part of me Allah wants me to love back into wholeness.
This is the mercy in my mess.”
Your inner child doesn’t need you to be perfect.
They just need you to be present.
đź“Ą Free Download: “Letter to My Inner Child” Journal Template
Includes:
- Guided prompts
- Gentle affirmations
- Du’as for healing unmet needs
👉 Click here to access
🧠References & Wisdom
- Dr. Nicole LePera — How to Do the Work
- Carl Jung — Inner Child Archetype
- Attachment Science – Simply Psychology
- Hadith from Bukhari on emotional affection
- Yaqeen Institute: The Prophet’s Emotional Intelligence
🪶 Final Words
Your healing isn’t just for you.
When you reparent yourself, you stop passing down pain.
You show others what softness looks like.
You become a safer space for the world.
And maybe…
You finally give that little you the love they always deserved.
With you on the path,
– neurounfold.com
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